* You can learn relaxation techniques through groups or professionals or teach yourself with books, CDs and DVDs. Regular practice will help you to relax when you need to most.
* Self-help leaflets and books based on cognitive therapy.
* You may not want to talk to family members about your phobia or feelings of anxiety – but it can help. Try a friend or relative you trust and respect, and who is a good listener. They may have had the same problem themselves, or know someone else who has.
* It can be easier to talk to people with similar problems in a group. They understand what you are going through and may be able to suggest ways of coping. These groups may focus on anxieties and phobias, or on other problems. These include women's groups, bereaved parents groups, survivors of abuse groups.
Psychotherapies are talking treatments which can help you understand and control your anxieties. They can happen in groups or individually, for several weeks or months. It’s generally a form of cognitive behavioural therapy.
* Tranquillisers (valium-type medicines, like most sleeping tablets) are very effective, but should only be taken for a short period of time as they can be addictive.
* Antidepressants work well but can take two to four weeks to work. Side-effects include nausea, drowsiness, dizziness, dry mouth and constipation.
* Beta blockers are usually used to treat high blood pressure but can be used, in low doses, to control the physical shaking of anxiety.